There’s not a whole lot in my life I’ve done right. I’ve done a few things right. One of the things I did right was my marriage. I knew when I met my husband that God sent him to me. I know that God has plans for him. I knew that I wanted a 1st Corinthians 13 kind of love. Let me refresh your memory:
I had been in love before, but it hadn’t been the 1st Corinthians 13 kind of love. It was the kind of love that DID keep a record of wrongs. It was a jealous kind of love. It was a provoked and self-seeking and arrogant kind of love. I didn’t want that kind of love this time. This time I wanted the 1st Corinthians 13 kind of love. The love that the bible describes. The love I still believe is possible between people. So how do you start a biblical kind of love? I started by being a biblical kind of lover. I loved as patiently and kindly as I could. I tried hard not to be jealous or a braggart. I didn’t provoke nor did I keep a record of his wrongs. What I found was that it worked. I invited God into my relationship. And He stayed.
He is still there. What I also found was that my husband responded accordingly. Imagine that. The bible was right all along. Since I didn’t keep record neither did he. Since I was kind and patient, so was he. It worked, y’all. I am as amazed as anyone. What kind of marriage does a couple with a 1st Corinthians 13 kind of love have? You guessed it, a biblical one.
I was prepared to say it. You know the word. The one that’s been erased from the marriage vows because women tend not to like it? Starts with an “O?” I was perfectly prepared to say that word. And I was perfectly prepared to actually do the deed. You know, obey my husband. (I didn’t get the chance to say it. They don’t ask these days I guess.) I like to think that I do obey him. But I’ll admit that my husband makes it very easy.
I still remember a conversation we had early in our marriage. My husband said that the “kids come first, I know.” I disabused him of that notion: “No, they don’t come first. We come first. If we don’t make this marriage work everyone loses. Including the kids.” I meant every word. In our household, first comes God, then my husband, then our children. It sounds old-fashioned, I know, but it works.
I know a marriage like ours is unusual in this modern world. But I also know it’s a good marriage. A Godly marriage. When it seems like marriages and relationships have little or no chance to make it, we have. Invite God into your relationship. Do it His way and I promise you won’t regret it.