I’m losing my boys. Slowly and surely, they’re slipping from my grasp little by little. I can do nothing but watch it happen. It is as inevitable as the tide. What is happening has happened to millions of other mamas as well. It’s part of the growing of boys.
When they were little they needed me to nurture them. To take care of them. I was the source of food, comfort and sleep. Their day ran on a clock that I wound. I thrilled to their need. I smiled at their discomfort and sleepiness. I knew I was the only one who could fix it. I was the one who soothed them. Fed them. Rocked them to sleep. Dressed them. Took them out to see the world. Played with them.
But they are boys. And boys grow to be men. That means us moms have to let go. It’s time for someone else to take over. It’s time for the one in the house to take over to teach them to be a man. Since I’m not a man it can’t be me.
It has to be a man. A good man. A strong man. A man who can show them how to protect their mom. How to tell the truth. How to stand up for what they believe in. How to look out for each other. How to walk. How to talk. What to say. How to tell what’s important in this life. It’s their dad.
They are blessed with a good one. He’s honest, good and upright. He’s faithful and walks with integrity. He’s gentle, kind and helpful. He’s all they will need to teach them. Guide them. Show them how to be a man.
He’s necessary. Dad’s are necessary. Even in this day and age. Especially in this day and age. Rampant divorce means nothing to a child. ‘Unreconcilable differences’ is meaningless to a boy who needs his dad. His presence is vital to the boys’ psyche. There’s no alternative to an involved dad.
So, I’m losing my boys. I’m okay with that. They need their dad more than they need me. Oh, they will still need me from time to time. To dry their tears. Bandage their boo boos. Fix their snacks. But from here on their dad will be teaching them how to be man. That’s a good thing. I get to sit back and be a proud mom. Because if they’re anything like their dad, they’ll be a good man.